Yesterday I had a conversation with my tribe “Mom To Me Again”. We meet every two weeks virtually and talk about being the woman we aspire to be and how we get there. Yesterday’s discussion revolved around our self-image as "empty-nesters" or "Bird-Launchers." Society tends to label us with titles like wife, divorced, widow, empty-nester, working woman, or stay-at-home mom, but these are just labels and don't define who we truly are. I believe that shifting from being an empty-nester to a Bird-Launcher is empowering and a step toward embracing our freedom as human beings, rather than conforming to the expectations associated with these labels.

When you're seen as an empty nester, it often implies feelings of loneliness, sadness, and grief, which can be limiting. On the other hand, when we embrace the role of a Bird-Launcher, we act with purpose, achieve our goals, and take pride not only in our children but also in ourselves.

The latter perspective opens the door to being our authentic selves. We can detach ourselves from thoughts and emotions that drag down our spirits and keep us stuck in cycles of sadness, loneliness, or grief. We become as free as the birds we've set free.

We can visualize our thoughts and emotions as passersby. We let them go through us without holding onto them. It's natural to experience feelings and emotions, but it's up to us whether we choose to cling to them or let them go. Clinging to thoughts and emotions leads to misery while detaching from them brings freedom and inner peace.

The first step in detaching from emotions is to become aware of what's happening in the present moment. For instance, in the midst of an argument, we can recognize our anger. When we feel sad and start to sense loneliness, we acknowledge these emotions and simply let them pass. Remember that our loved ones won't love us more if we wallow in misery; it's our responsibility to find happiness and contentment within ourselves.

Another important point I'd like to mention is that during challenging times with our loved ones, we shouldn't take everything they say personally. We all have unique ways of interpreting words and assuming their meaning can lead to misunderstandings. In case of doubt, we can ask for clarification, and it's essential to remember that they, too, are likely emotional. It's with a calm mind that we can assess situations and find solutions.

Practices like meditation, deep breathing, and spending time in nature are excellent ways to calm the mind.

In our lives, we are abundantly blessed with the gift of life and the ability to receive love when we allow it.